Arun was the kind of guy you love
to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something
positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing,
he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a unique manager because he had several workers who had
followed him around from Bank to Bank. The reason the workers
followed Arun was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, Arun was there telling the
employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up
to Arun and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive
person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Arun replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself,
'Arun, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good
mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in
a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to
be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn
from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose
to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side
of life. I choose the positive side of life."
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," Arun said. "Life is all about choices.
When you cut way all the junk, every situation is a choice. You
choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will
affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood.
The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."
I reflected on what Arun said. Soon thereafter, I left the Banking
industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often
thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting
to it.
Several years later, I heard that Arun did something you are never
supposed to do in a Banking business: he left the back door open
one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers.
While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness,
slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Arun was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local
trauma center.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Arun was
released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still
in his body.
I saw Arun about six months after the accident. When I asked him
how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins.
Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through
his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that
went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,"
Arun replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered
that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose
to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I
asked.
Arun continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling
me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency
room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and
nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead
man.'
"I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at
me," said Arun. "She asked if I was allergic to anything.
'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they
waited for my reply. I took a deep breathe and yelled, 'Bullets!'
Over their laughter, I told them. 'I am choosing to live. Operate
on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Arun lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because
of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we
have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
Contributed by:
Bharat Srivastav